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Below are the 3 skeleton stories as promised. If you have forgotten the task please listen to the online tutorial 08th July 2009 to remind yourself again.
The Magic Stone.
There was a little girl who sometimes felt scared and small. She had a magic stone that she carried in his pocket. When she rubbed the stone, she would turn into a big strong cheetah and she could take care of herself. She was a wise cheetah who knew how to use her words. When she rubbed the stone again she would turn back into a girl. The cheetah wisdom stayed with her always.
The Skunk Family
Shaun was a member of the stinky skunk family and he had to learn how not to spray the people he loved most when he got angry. Spraying others only made them angry too. Shaun needed to learn how to use words instead of his sprayers. Shaun, little boy skunk got lots of chances to practice using his words and other things too (like learning how not to take things, to ask first, not to play with knives or matches, etc.)
The Lonely Prince
A long time ago there lived a lonely Prince. He had a beautiful kingdom but no friends to play with. He sent his men to find the wisest in his land so that he doesn’t have to be lonely any more. The wisest taught him ways of how to make friends and he was lonely no more.
Notes
Therapeutic story-telling is a powerful tool parents can use to help their children understand their feelings and behaviors. The exercise will help you build your own repertoire of therapeutic stories.
What is therapeutic story-telling? What can it do for children?
Therapeutic story-telling helps children understand abstract feelings in concrete ways. The third
person setting of the story is non-threatening to children. Events and feelings get to make sense.
The power of the third person gives children the capacity to grieve losses and practice “new
parts” and new ways of thinking about themselves and their world. Overwhelming emotional
experiences are made manageable in left/right brain communication. Story-telling can help with
social issues too. Stories can help children learn how to regulate their emotions, build motivation
to behave positively, organize painful life experiences and practice more give and take in their
family relationships.
Tips:
· You don’t have to be an expert; you have an audience of one.
· Choose the right time of day for your child
· Choose characters that work for your child
· Your tone of voice can make a huge impact.
· Choose issues that come up and then change it a bit (our child doesn’t like it if we get too close to being “real”).
· Think ahead about the point or message that you want to convey.
· As you and your child get comfortable, encourage co-creation with your child. He/she may start with simply naming the characters or choosing them, but later on they may be able to choose the topics or even share things they need to talk about through the story topic selection.
· Keep it simple. Go with your gut.
· There needs to be a plot where some kind of crisis occurs and it gets worked out somehow, through talking, using words, practicing, etc. It is almost like helping them develop a thought process to learn how to problem solve.
Topic Ideas:
· Feelings of loss and attachment.
· Other developmental issues like anger, biting, spitting, rages, lying, using your words,transitions (like drop off and pick up time at school), talking about things you are afraid of (how to talk about them with words), handling disappointment, handling really strong feelings (when you cannot even think straight).
· How to talk about abstract things like telling the truth and other family values.
· Little things like: patience, waiting for mama to be done talking on the phone, how to act when people come over for dinner, handling the excitement at holidays, saying thank you, saying hello and good bye, how to talk on the phone, how to use your words to let people know what you need, how to say phrases like “I don’t know” when you don’t know how you feel. How to pick up your toys. How to act at a birthday party.
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